Eternal Marriage

There are four small things a person can be doing in a marriage, without even knowing they are doing it, that can destroy a marriage. John Gottman calls these the four horsemen in the book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”. These things can negatively affect a marriage but if we watch for them and try to avoid them, then a marriage can be more open and have less unhealthy arguments.             The first horsemen that Gottman describes is criticism. This is attacking the person, rather than the problem. This doesn’t help a problem to be solved, it only hurts the spouse being attacked. Rather than criticizing the person, we should be focusing on the problem that we are frustrated with. When we are able to tell our spouse what is bothering us and provide ideas of how it could be fixed, it will be solved much more quickly than by attacking our spouse’s character. I don’t like to be criticized. I shut down when I am be...

               Marriage is such a special and sacred unity and can bring the opportunity for many blessings. However, it has been confused and redefined so much lately. God has created marriage to be between a man and a woman. This is because men and women have been created with different divine characteristics that can help to build one another. A man and a woman can teach each other, grow together, and uplift one another.                 In the talk “Covenant Marriage” by Elder Bruce C. Hafen it states, “Marriage is by nature a covenant, not just a private contract one may cancel at will.” When times of hardship and trial come up in a marriage, so many people resort to a divorce. They think that is the best option for the family when times get tough. Divorce should not be the first resort we fall to when the marriage gets hard, in fact, it should be the very last reso...

The Family: A Proclamation to the World states, “…marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God…” The definition of marriage has been understood in the past as two people of the opposite gender uniting together as one. There is so much debate today about what marriage really is. So many people think that marriage can be between any two people who love each other.                 There are multiple people who I am very close to who do not believe the same I do. I don’t agree with what they believe marriage is, or the way they do things, but I can still love them. I have made what I believe well known to all, and they know where I stand on the definition of marriage, but they also know that I love them and always will. The different beliefs I have compared to others does not change the love I have for anyone.                 In...

Marriage greatly affects society and families. Data shows that two people who have a healthy marriage and who don’t follow the trends society has created, such as: cohabiting, single parenting, etc., have a much healthier family unit within the children and parent relationships. Although all families try to make the best of their situation with what they have, children in families with a single mother or father, or a step-parent are much more prone to mental health illness, abuse, suicide and many more problems than children in a family with their biological mother and father. Children who grow up in a household with two married biological parents are more likely to be successful in school and have less problems as children and adults. However, children who are raised in a household without married biological parents, can still be successful and do well in life. C. Broderick talks about transitional characters. He stated, “A transitional character is one who, in a single generati...